Can masturbating to pictures or videos be unhealthy?

[Eddy]

Greetings fellow masturbators.

My name is Ed and masturbation has been my relief for sexual tension ever since I reached puberty.

I'm not married, and have had very few sexual partners. When I'm with a woman, I can never achieve orgasm with her through intercourse, recieving oral lovemaking, or even masturbating with her!!!!!!!!

The only time I can achieve orgasm is when I'm masturbating alone. I love to masturbate while looking at pictures or videos.
I love masturbating while looking at sexy pictures/videos of women, or women making love to women, or women making love to men.

I have to find the right pictures or videos that will arouse me enough to orgasm. If what I'm masturbating to doesn't do it, I have to switch to something else that I can masturbate to until I ejaculate.

Could this be the reason why I have never had an orgasm with a woman? When you get bored making love to a woman, you can't just switch to some media that visually arouses you, right?

I think I'm more attracted to pictures or videos of women instead of real women. Do I need a sex therapist?

[myndphucker]

Well, we probably need more info. You didn't really specify several factors like how you actually feel about the women that you've been with, comfort level (anxiety), your own self esteem, etc. You might want to schedule an appointment with a garden variety therapist to cover some of these questions. That person will make an appropriate referral if it's in order. Most important, don't stress over it in the meantime. The anxiety will possibly make things worse.

[svenbi]

Hi Eddy,
sure I have a similar experience with real sex with woman. I am cut and the best way for me is to rub my glanse with some oily fluid.
Sometimes in a girls pussy I don't feel enough to get an orgsam so fast. But the girls like to have a long trem sex session. If I really can't cum, I just lick her and masturbate for my own at the end.

[zipperdown]

Hi Eddy,

It sounds like you're from a lack of self respect. Before I was married I only had one relationship and ONE terrible sexual experience with a woman (and I use that word in the loosest sense). I never thought I'd be able to have sex and thought I'd cursed myself through continual masturbation.

My Wife has taught me to love myself, even though I'm still full of self doubt - thinking I'm ugly or not good enough.

I think also that you've self conditioned yourself into believing that the only way you can reach orgasm is through a particular stimulus. Don't beat yourself if a certain style doesn't flick your switch - we're all like that. If we all got off on the same thing, it would be boring.

The fact that you asked if it's wrong to masturbate to pictures or a video means that, like me, you suffer from that appalling guilt feeling, that society has stamped on us. Masturbation isn't wrong, sex isn't wrong. You can still enjoy sex and get off on pictures, that is perfectly normal.

You just need to meet the right girl, someone who could listen to your concerns and help you enjoy sex.

I hope you do and hope my waffle has helped in some small way.

[Tazz41]

I've jerked off as long as I can remember, and yes in the early yrs,20s, I had a hard time orgasming inside a gal. I thought it was fromm too much jerking to porn, but finally,I decided I just needed to relax. Now I can perform just fine. However, if I anticipate having sex, I will
hold off masturbating before hand. It makes for stronger orgasms. If u are getting sore,and
raw spots on ur dick, then I would suggest backing off a bit. I've done that several times
over the years and its no fun having a sore member.