Talking Dirty!! Turn on or turn off?

[Niagra]

WOULD YOU FIND IT A HUGE TURN ON IF YOUR PARTNER TURNED INTO A DIRTY MOUTHED SLUT IN BED WITH YOU? i'M TALKING RAUNCHY! Lurkers come on and at least vote in the poll. Registration requires simply an email address and name and password. How tuff is that?

[bananaboy]

Hell yes! But I don't like it every time. It loses it impact if every sex session is filled with dirty talk. The ideal thing is sometimes lovemaking, sometimes fun sex, and sometimes raunchy, dirty talk-filled fucking. Mix it up - keep it fresh.

[HotRod]

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[leatherhead]

I love it. But the consensus seems to be not all the time, and I agree with that. There are those soft, slow, burning lovemaking sessions that are wonderful without "dirty talk." And there are those hot, writhing, pumping, grinding, sweat-dripping lovemaking sessions that scream for raunchy talk. Suffice it to say that some good old-fashioned raunch can certainly spice things up in the bedroom, or the bathroom, or the kitchen, or the gararge, or the . . . well, you get the picture!

[The Real Jivesta]

I'm not a fan of dirty talk, to me it seems to turn the scene into a cheap porno set. Personal preference I guess.

What I do love is frank honest sharing of feelings, which may be construed by some as Dirty talk, though I'd probably call it pillow talk.

[Niagra]

hehe... you all are just like the Niagra in the Falls of loving.... mmmmm I can even agree with Jivesta on some points. I just love the way you guys think and leather... my goodness do you have a twin brother perhaps? Or a clone maybe!!! You typically almost daily blow my mind by some of the things you say. I will find lil things written in some nook and cranny somewhere that either make me smile from ear to ear, warms my heart or makes me horny as heck. Schawingggggg batter!

I loved nanas mix it up a little and also identification of the 3 basic ways to have sex. I think its also kindof worth pointing out that the ones that answer seem to spend alot of time in the chat room too!! lol just kidding ... coincidence I'm sure .. lol

For me personally, I think alot of it has to do with mood... and which type of sex your having. I find that currently I am more in the want to be taken roughly type mindset. Certainly not raped or anything... but a woman likes to know shes with a "Man!" But it also has to do with expression of desire. I have to stop discussing this I'm starting to get warmed up a bit. But anywho... breathe breathe Niagra .... ok ummmm as I was saying.... I think there is a certain mood when it is ok and actually as Leather said spicy! But words like slut and even bitch during sex for some reason don't set right with me. If someone calls me those names in anger its actually comical and never bothers me. Rise above that people btw.... but in sex it just doesn't trip my trigger. But and call me a confused freak if you want to but during dirty talk I don't think I would mind hearing cunt ... I mean afterall it has a definate relevance and meaning. But unless I am a whore slut or bitch why would sex be the time to call me them? Maybe I will become enlightened here? But that is where I agree with Jivesta and his cheap porn thing. As far as pillow talk, I am and all of you out there know this but I cinduct my lifes voice, inside and outside of the bedroom frankly openly and honestly. I wish more than you know that everyone would be that way. It would save so much pain and misunderstanding. I know its harrder to take sometimes but if your carefull how you deliver it its alot less harder to take. Besides giving sugar coated bullshit is still just bullshit!! Wouldn't ya rather have the truth?

[PlumpLvr]

I really like Niagra's attitude about honesty. I've always told my partners "Hey, I'm doing this to make you feel good too, so if I do something you don't like say so, and if you really like it say so too!"

I think it was leatherhead who pointed out that there's different moods. There's sometimes my wife and I make love. During those times the dirty talk seems inappropriate, instead more gentle, loving words are used. Penis and vagina, for example.

Then there's the times we fuck. No better word for it, just out and out we're fucking horny and are going to FUCK. During those times dirty talk is a turn on for both of us, and we get mutually foul mouthed. She uses words like cock and cunt and pussy just as easily as I do. Hell, when we're alone she screams them out at the top of her lungs!

To address the slut question, I think guys like the word because in their mind a slut is a person who has no inhibitions and will do whatever kinky nasty thing the guy wants. So if we're calling her a slut, we're saying our partner is the kinky no holds barred person we fantasize about.

My wife isn't real receptive if I just call her slut, but if I say something like "I love it when you act like my slut" or "oh baby be my personal slut", she rather digs that and if not enjoys it at least tolerates it. Hell, she's even said to me "Fuck my pussy use me like your personal slut" or things like it.

So yes, under the right conditions dirty talk is a definate turn on!

[Niagra]

You know reading Plump Lvrs message here I got to thinking... would it not be a trip if for some reason we all had to get together in a room or convention hall and bring our partners too!!! OMG could I keep a straight face!! I would be looking at all yalls women thinking about things like this post ... LOL And OMG Ilikeitalots wifey I feel like I have known her intimately for years. As do alot of us. That would be a trip and a half I think. Ultimately I imagine it would be a disaster!! but the thought was worth it.

Just a few quick thoughts... First TY for your compliment regarding my honesty and candor. I need to hear rthat stuff. Feedback on what others percieve is always a good thing. I use that in and out of the bedroom its who I choose to be!! And thanks also for sharing how guys view the word slut. Its more a good thing than bad!!I could go for it now too.

[Qball]

Dirrty talk is always a turn-on.

[Tazz41]

Yes, luv it

[hooked]

Sure would enjoy it!

[jac_koff]

There is dirty talk and there is dirty talk.....

I like dirty talk unless i think it is being too dirty lol

[Stefan]

love dirty talk..the dirtier the better, tho not all the time. love calling her a cock hungry slut and telling her how i want to tongue her wet cunt. love her begging for my hard cock.

but also like sorta smoochy lovemaking too.

[goforitMark]

Yeah love it, gets me really horny

[24Tuesday]

I never thought I'd go for it until a girlfriend initiated it one time. Got me off like nothing else! It's still more of an exception than the rule, but every so often when we're both in the mood, hell yes!