Refractory Periods?

[yoshothegrand]

Hi,

Does anyone know if there's any way to shorten the male refractory period? I'm a young, horny guy with a lovely girlfriend but my problem is that my refractory period is, at minimum, an hour, usually more (for both sex and masturbating). I can sometimes get it up before this time, but practically never cum and, to be honest, I'm usually not that into it either (even though every shred of my being is yelling at me that I should be). I know it really disappoints my gf, by the time 1+ hours have elapsed, we're usually out of the mood. Part of me wants to think it might be a psychological problem, some fear of something, but why would it also then affect my masturbating? I practically never do more than 1 load a night...

Any comments, advice?

Thanks!

[SAVANNAH]

I have found that the "refresh" time for my male companions is in opposite porportion to the amount of attention and foreplay I pay to him. Simply put; the less attention he recieves from me the longer it takes for him to "recover" his ability and desire to continue our activities. Don't get me wrong. Sometimes once is enough, more than enough. Its easy for me to recognize the signs of male satisfaction. Visually the shrunken, leaking penis combined with that self satisfied look of; well I got mine, I hope you got yours, tells me everything. The sound of snoring is also sure fire evidence that the evening is complete. Well, for someone it is anyway.

Now back to your situation. How does the thought of a little oral stimulation to your lady appeal to you? I know that really perks up my libido and even passes the time more quickly for me. I've also noticed that my guys penis gets remarkably functional after an oral sex session. Your a free thinking open minded kinda guy. You know she wants more of you and once your body starts cooperating you know damn good and well you will want more of her. So go for it. Begin slowly with minimal contact and slowly increase it all over her body not just her erorenous zones. After a short time you should both be fully aroused.

OK now. Test time. Have you begun to see a pattern here? Has it occurred to you that as her passion and desire increases so will yours and vice versa. Remember that first and foremost sex should be a giving situation. The more you give the more you'll get, usually.

[yoshothegrand]

I understand what you're saying, and, don't worry, I do enjoy the fine art of cunnilingus, but I believe my issue runs deeper than that, since, as I mentioned, my refresh time is the same whether its sex or masturbation, and I would assume that I am indeed much more aroused during sex and my time with her. So then, my question still stands, does anyone know of any physical method of reducing the refresh time, for either sex or masturbating? Pills? Muscle exercises? Diet? Force myself to beat off more until the time shortens? etc.?

Thanks!