by stellarBATE » Sat Sep 29, 2007 7:17 am
I guess maybe there is a comparison between a pussy that is not moist enough to a cock that isn't working right, but somehow, I think men are the inferior sex. Inferior in many ways. Mechanochemically, emotionally -- which may explain why men can get caught up in compensatory behaviors. Bragging, puffery, machismo. Inside, they know they're vulnerable. Likely to get it wrong. Getting it right sometimes means shutting down emotions. It isn't fair. We have to get erect to please a woman with a cock, at least inside a vagina. Women, again, maybe I'm wrong -- but a good lubricant can fix most of their issues unless there is something not working with their libidos. Guys, sex is complex whether they admit it or not. Are we long enough, hard enough, strong enough? Issues of anatomy that can't be changed. The ladies can lie back and enjoy if they want. Feels like most the weight is on us to perform.
I think about the "curse and blessing" analogy in a different post. I've heard it said that during sex, a man spends all of his time trying not to have an orgasm and women have to work at having an orgasm. It's like that. The sensitivity issue can be unfair. You wish you could go on and on but nature works against you. Every stroke in a woman's pussy, the closer to having an orgasm -- and losing libido. When things aren't working right, anxiety, health, other issues can cause periods of impotence. I was impotent for three years once. I couldn't even masturbate. Maybe I'm wrong but I can't think of a parallel to women having the issue of performance anxiety that men do. Of course, if a mate has been patient, over time -- you can hit your stride, maybe even improve against the odds. Stay in longer, bring her closer to orgasm -- if you're lucky -- orgasm together.
Penetration. It can be slightly painful for men also at first if both are not fully ready or well lubricated. But after the initial thrust, it's like being a warm wet glove. Primordial. Somehow, through hormones working to soften the internal tissue of a woman so she can expand and grow, this is heightened during about the third month of a woman's pregnancy. It feels (it is) even softer, nearly electric.
But, I think about the information suggesting that a woman most sensitive area is her clitoris. Imagine that sensitivity being spread over something the size of a cock head and you'd have it. And hence the disadvantage. Sex is about NOT giving in, and holding back the whole time. Give in too much...boom, it's over.
I don't like that part of it. I want it to last longer not only for my pleasure but the pleasure of my partner [of blessed memory].
It isn't I don't like being who I am, I just don't like the disadvantages of male sex. I guess that why I'm, here. Masturbation is far more controllable -- the art of letting go -- is literally letting go. If you go slow when a mate might prefer it faster at a certain moment in the act of sex, it's a let down for the woman. Masturbation -- there's no one else to disappoint if you're not paired properly. My wife and I had a great sex life. Erotica, mutual masturbation, masturbating her after my own orgasm -- she always had her orgasm. I saw to that.
But what does it feel like to have a penis? For me, during an erection it feels -- heavy. Tingling, pulsing thing that has a mind of it's own and not a damn bit of conscience.
I have the other fantasy -- I want to be a woman, making love to a woman. I want the clothing, the "full body" experience that is the case for women. Everywhere is sensitive to touch. I want that "emotional set point" that is different. I dream about being female at times -- but I don't like men. Oh, I enjoy the idea of getting cum, playing in it, the taste -- I just can't imagine going to the BS of being around a guy to get it. Funny conflicted part of my libido. I did have a boyfriend once. He told me I fucked like a girl. Said he'd never known a man that did that. Gay guys like guys for them being guys. <shrug> I have a better time with women. My late wife liked my inner woman.
Guys -- it's so penis oriented. So fleeting.