Hubby finally left me go to the forbidden place lol...

[jamiegirl]

The hubby has always been the kind of guy who had what I call "butt phobia", he thought anything to do with a mans butt was "gay". I assured him over and over that is not the case. If it feels good, why not, is my philosophy. The other night I did have some hope after he seemed ok with me licking it (read under stories "Last night" for more info). So last night I mentioned it again that I would really like to do some sort of butt play with him and that he would like it and to trust me. So finally last night he gave in and said to go for it. I was giving him some oral and he said he was ready so I slowly inserted a butt plug, I could tell he was liking it. I was sitting between his legs jacking him while I inserted it and he was like....I'm ready to cum lmao!!!! What a record that was, he had a really intense orgasm and his hot load squirted in the air really far before I had a chance to even get ready. I talked to him at lunch today and he said he really enjoyed it and would be "up" for some more butt fun again soon!! Anyway...just wanted to share my story, it is very exciting for me to finally get him to try new things and I wanted to share the experience with you all.

[teplus]

Your husband is such a fortunate guy. I have begged my wife of over 30 years so many times and its been few and far between when she will give me that pleasure.

[jamiegirl]

Your husband is such a fortunate guy. I have begged my wife of over 30 years so many times and its been few and far between when she will give me that pleasure.

teplus-thanks for being able to appreciate this. I'm sorry to hear that your wife doesn't cooperate very often. I wished couples would be more open to try new things with each other and explore all possibilities instead of limiting things and being so close minded. In my opinion....the possibilities are endless.

[teplus]

She will say she is not interested in receiving anal also, but when I do use both hands she will have a series of tremendous earth shattering orgasms and say how good it felt. Just wish I could get her to understand how much I need it.

[fourstrokes]

Your husband is a lucky fellow and you know how to have fun!

Congratulations to both, may this be the beginning of a new era in your relationship.

[bugleone]

Yes, I have to agree,.......your husband is incredibly fortunate in his choice of partner,....I just hope he realises that he is in a 'one in ten thousand' situation and loves and values you accordingly. Most of us men go through our lives and NEVER meet a woman who is really 'adjusted' about sex, let alone open enough be so sexually giving.....

......Actually, I found your post a moving one as my own experiences with women have been less that happy despite my very best efforts and intentions.

[jamiegirl]

Yes, I have to agree,.......your husband is incredibly fortunate in his choice of partner,....I just hope he realises that he is in a 'one in ten thousand' situation and loves and values you accordingly. Most of us men go through our lives and NEVER meet a woman who is really 'adjusted' about sex, let alone open enough be so sexually giving.....

......Actually, I found your post a moving one as my own experiences with women have been less that happy despite my very best efforts and intentions.

Thanks guys, I really appreciate it! Unfortunately, the hubby isn't really appreciative of how I am. In some ways he is, because I like to give anything a try and am really open and up for anything and enjoy everything. The problem with our sex life is like many others (although maybe roles are reversed, more than not), I have a much higher sex drive than my husband.
We always have had a difference, but as I get older, my sex drive increases and his stays the same. With any relationship, this tends to cause problems. We work on it together and I must give him credit as to lately wanting to try things he has always refused to do. He has done them, and much to his surprise, he liked them, but only after I expressed how hurt I was getting that he didn't want to try things that would be a turn on for me. So in some ways, although he did it, it wasn't really what he wanted. For anyone not in this particular situation, the burden of feeling like you pressure someone to have sex with you is a huge burden to bare. It also really gets to me when I go out with friends who complain about how much their bf/hubby wants sex and they would rather not....or they are too embarrased to have doggy-style sex for fear their significant other would see their ass ...etc. It can really be a double edge sword because the more I want sex and express to him, the more it is a turn off for him. I have tried to have him think that I don't want it so that he will feel like he has to chase me for it but that rarely works (number 1 cuz I have a hard time showing I don't want it, and number 2, he is happy to not feel obligated to have sex with me). I'm hoping one day we will get more compatable, for now it is a stuggle, and I'll just keep on masturbating lol!!! Anyway...sorry to go off on a rant this morning, its just fresh in my mind and I'm sure there are others out there who feel the same pain.

[footman]

What a record that was, he had a really intense orgasm and his hot load squirted in the air really far before I had a chance to even get ready.

Welll...sounds like he did enjoy the butt play didn't he!? Great to hear that!

Unfortunately, the hubby isn't really appreciative of how I am.... The problem with our sex life is like many others (although maybe roles are reversed), I have a much higher sex drive than my husband...We always have had a difference, but as I get older, my sex drive increases and his stays the same.

As I'm sure you're aware that is the case most of the time- one partner's sex drive is stronger than the other's- and it's usually the guy's who's the highest. My wife and I turn 50 next year, and fortunately for me, my wife's sex drive has really picked up the last year or so. Not sure if it's solely because of that, or that we're also empty-nesters, getting older, etc., but she's really opened up to try LOTS of new things this past year.

He has done them (new things), and much to his surprise, he liked them, but only after I expressed how hurt I was getting that he didn't want to try things that would be a turn on for me.

This concept is difficult for some partners to understand. Mine's the same way. One of our biggest discussions on this point centered around my desire to watch her masturbate herself. She's always given me absolute hell when she's discovered me masturbating. Consequently I firmly believed, for a number of reasons, that she never did. This summer while discussing masturbation, she admitted that she did occassionally do it, although it's almost always while I'm away on business. I was both angry- because she got so mad at me for masturbating; shocked- because I firmly believed that she never masturbated; and extremely happy- because I find the idea of her masturbating alone very sexy and sensual, even more so when she said that she thinks of me while doing it. I told her how totally hot it would make me to watch her masturbate- a concept that was totally foregn to her, and that she's not comfortable with, at least for now. We even talked about mutual masturbation- which many times we're already half-involved with because when I'm horny and she's not she'll let me masturbate and cum on her. The good news is that, although she has turned down some things that turn me on- like light bondage, she does do some other things largely because they turn me on. Anyway, hope your hubbie continues to improve in this area.

[jamiegirl]

What a record that was, he had a really intense orgasm and his hot load squirted in the air really far before I had a chance to even get ready.

Welll...sounds like he did enjoy the butt play didn't he!? Great to hear that!

Unfortunately, the hubby isn't really appreciative of how I am.... The problem with our sex life is like many others (although maybe roles are reversed), I have a much higher sex drive than my husband...We always have had a difference, but as I get older, my sex drive increases and his stays the same.

As I'm sure you're aware that is the case most of the time- one partner's sex drive is stronger than the other's- and it's usually the guy's who's the highest. My wife and I turn 50 next year, and fortunately for me, my wife's sex drive has really picked up the last year or so. Not sure if it's solely because of that, or that we're also empty-nesters, getting older, etc., but she's really opened up to try LOTS of new things this past year.

He has done them (new things), and much to his surprise, he liked them, but only after I expressed how hurt I was getting that he didn't want to try things that would be a turn on for me.

This concept is difficult for some partners to understand. Mine's the same way. One of our biggest discussions on this point centered around my desire to watch her masturbate herself. She's always given me absolute hell when she's discovered me masturbating. Consequently I firmly believed, for a number of reasons, that she never did. This summer while discussing masturbation, she admitted that she did occassionally do it, although it's almost always while I'm away on business. I was both angry- because she got so mad at me for masturbating; shocked- because I firmly believed that she never masturbated; and extremely happy- because I find the idea of her masturbating alone very sexy and sensual, even more so when she said that she thinks of me while doing it. I told her how totally hot it would make me to watch her masturbate- a concept that was totally foregn to her, and that she's not comfortable with, at least for now. We even talked about mutual masturbation- which many times we're already half-involved with because when I'm horny and she's not she'll let me masturbate and cum on her. The good news is that, although she has turned down some things that turn me on- like light bondage, she does do some other things largely because they turn me on. Anyway, hope your hubbie continues to improve in this area.

Thanks so much, its nice to know that I'm not alone sometimes. And after reading your reply I guess I should be more thankful than I am, I kind of went on a rant. The fact that he gives things a shot for me is worth alot and I should be very thankful for that. Still hopefully one day we will be a little more compatible and I won't have to go after it as much and he will have more inititive.

[lubed_left_hand]

There's nothing more exciting to me than pleasing my partner. I'm in my mid 40s and while some friends my age have a diminished desire. mine's never gone down. Even after I've gotten off I'm more than willing to do anything and everything to please my partner some more. Mouth, fingers, her toys, I love getting women off. Just wish I could find a woman who likes being on the receving end as much as I love to give.