Has anyone been to a organized BDSM Party where they allow..

[thtguy242]

Has anyone been to a organized BDSM Party where they allow group masturbation?
What was the experience like. I have been at private parties that turned into mutual masturbation sessions with a group of friends and acquaintances but that is different than being completely surrounded by strangers. I am single presently and so I would be going to this party stag... seems a little awkward... thoughts--opinions?

[hannay2]

Not sure what you mean by an organised BDSM party ... maybe a regular party themed along BDSM lines and maybe with a Mistress/slave or Dom/sub couple putting on a display? I guess wanking while you watch depends on the group that's there, whether it is private at someone's house, the comfort-levels, like that.

If you are meaning a party-night at a BDSM club however, or at least an event rooted in a local BDSM/Lifestyle community, then I can maybe answer.

Credentials?

One girl I see is deeply submissive, gains deep personal satisfaction from belonging totally to another person and providing pleasure, being seen in that role, being shown-out within a loving and submissive relationship.

Contrary to the knee-jerk reaction BDSM isn't all about sex and control, but about fulfilment at the deeper personal levels. Eroticism and sexual submission is a part of that but is far from the whole, it is all about trust and dependence, sharing and offering, reliance and support, all with never any question of doubt ... it is a “you have to be there” thing lol. We have been in such a relationship now for some years.

So then ...

We have scened at BDSM clubs a few times ... that is where a BDSM club hosts an event for both established and interested/curious singles and couples to enjoy an evening in a lifestyle-friendly atmosphere. Mostly this will be at a nightclub booked for the event. There will be a bar, lounge/booth seating, and some space such as a dancefloor or maybe a performance area that on other nights is where the band would set up.

On this occasion however that other space will have been used to set up some typical BDSM equipment – a playtable, maybe a St George's Cross for a little flogger-play, a couple more things depending on space and numbers . The intent isn't however for everyone there to become a mob of whip-wielding, chain-jangling wierdos lol as narrow-minded people think, but is simply a social gathering where you go to sit and chat if that's all you want, watching whatever is going on, learn about the scene or make some connection maybe, or to get hands-on if you want with a piece of equipment you may not have tried before ... or to “scene”.

“Scening" is when a D/s couple will spontaneously take to the floor and start their own private scene right there, perhaps using some of the equipment already set up, or perhaps with something that they have brought to the event specifically, and others will watch or not as they wish. Generally it is acknowledged that this is a two-way thing however, wuth the scening couple getting as much from being watched as the watchers do from watching. But it isn't a cabaret, it is a sharing-moment, showing technique, refinement ... it is not a cabaret but a time for displaying expertise and giving others thoughts and ideas for their own later use in private ...

In that context masturbation isn't a gratuitous thing and so isn't automatically going to happen among those watching, however at the same time there is always a high erotic content and much sexual stimulation to be seen, so yes it happens ...

..... and it happens on different levels ... surprisingly often a subbie will get very turned on watching another subbie being used in some fashion that they would really like to experience with their own Dom, and would like to masturbate while watching, but maybe their Dom won't give them permission to do so right away so they will wait until allowed and then enjoy the opportuntiy ...

... sometimes singles who came out of curiousity find that what they are being allowed to share is much more stimulating than they had expected, and in the open atmosphere will masturbate watching simply because they have to!

The last club event we were at had some of the equipment I have mentioned, has a small raised stage normally for the band, had a couple of people who craft BDSM items like floggers and restraints discreetly in a couple of the booths by the bar ..

... a few people scened, a Mistress with two teen/twenty ladies that were wearing tight little black shorts, taped nipples, heels and nothing else scened with electro-stimulation ... they submitted to restraints on a table, the Mistress played with their bodies with electro discharge, found a nice twist in spending some special time on the zippers in the front of their hugging little shorts which ran right over their clits and pussy-line, making them squeal and moan as the blue sparks danced on the metal zip ... they were instructed to play with each other for her pleasure also, and she allowed each to orgasm by the time she completed their little scene ...

Another time a couple took to the stage to scene some knife-play, a display of total submission and trust ... he was a man-mountain and she was a wet rag of a girl, and the hardware he had in his custom case was frightening but he made love to her with it and she displayed her devotion and submission to him and to her total trust.

Another scene came from a guy who hooked his sub to an overhead line by her wrists at full-stretch wearing a leather cat-suit and full-face mask with the eyes fastened, caressed her body very sensuously to some low music, built up the intensity and drove her higher by working her while she was helpless to do anything to stop him, including using a range of vibrators on her, and for a while left the stage and invited anyone to take his place and continue with her treatment and make her cum ... a few people took a turn to feel, caress, play with her, a girl included lol, and the guy got back up and there were three people working her when she came a while later ... and yes lol there were a number of people masturbating watching that time

As I said, we have scened at times when it has appealed lol, though sometimes the cutesy other little things cause unexpected stimulation/appreciation ...

... One time it was flat-calm for some reason with people having a nice time just talking to others and propping up the bar lol but no background activity either on any equipment or anyone rising to scene, so on a whim I told my girl to go and stand in the middle of the small dancefloor and slowly take her top off and stand there and look to me for more instruction ... at couple-of-minute intervals I motioned for her to take something else off slowly and make it a show for those watching – which soon was everybody lol, and she was very nervous but also enjoying the experience of being shown-out so overtly ...

After about 20 mins she was in just her stockings, heels and garter-belt, and a little earlier I had told her not to reveal her nipples as she removed her other clothing so from then she had had to cope with covering them up as she dealt with the rest lol ...

Needless to say there was some discreet wanking going on watching her lol, so to finish I rose from the booth we were sitting in, went and stood behind her, took her wrists and brought them together behind her back and told her to keep them there, and reached round and played with her nipples that finally were revealed ... she likes a little pinch and a tug, squeals a little in gasping pleasure when they get borderline tender, and I worked her and jiggled her tits by her nipples too so the couple of guys wanking could get off on the sight ... and she loved watching them cum from the sight of her, ... lol you have to love her!

But it doesn't need as much as that ... one time I had her just step out of her skirt and go and fetch drinks from the bar in a skimpy top, panties, stockings and heels ... she said she lost count of the hands on her ass ...

And she went to the ladies room one time and got talking to a Crossdresser who was astounded by what he was seeing around him because this was his first time at an event like this where boundaries on lifestyle-things were loose .. He confessed that he really wanted to try being on the St George's cross to see what is felt like being play-flogged sensuously while wearing his female “items” with strangers watching ... he got his wish a little later

So, there's enough stimulation floating around just from the people turning up, whether that be a Mistress leading a near-naked guy in from the street on a chain, or a guy entering and being followed by a pretty girl in lingerie with her hands tied behind her, or whatever. Some times there is a no-masturbating policy simply because of legal issues to which the premises have to conform, though it still happens quietly in the background all the same.

So go anyway and let us know how it was for you, whether this kind of thing or not, and I would suggest you don't have your eyes open only inside the location but also as you approach beforehand and more especially when you leave – these things don't end just because the lights go out, lol ... for example when we were about to leave one time I sent her to get the car and pick me up outside after I finished my drink ... she was wearing very little by then, and the club's parking garage was two blocks down and around a corner ... she made to put her clothes on then stopped and looked at me and realised that wasn't an option . Apparently the attendant in the pay-booth didn't say much lol!

You don't get to take pictures at these events, but these are from another time, same club ... we were just leaving ... people were driving by to the exit at the same time ... and this is how she had looked much of the night though at times those clips on her panties had been undone and her lacy top removed for a time ... there was someone there showing nipple shields, clips and a couple of types of clamps he makes ... he had them just laid out on a table on a little cloth, I said he'd do better if he would have brought somebody along to model them ... he said he had thought of that but hadn't thought he could find someone, didn't want to have to pay anyone either lol ... So I volunteered her ... She had people soon around her putting things in and on her nipples ... seemed to sell most of the guy's stuff for him just by getting fondled and tweaked! Now That's marketing! Lol

[jaybee2000]

Great photos, hannay. Had to get my cock out and play with myself while lookong at them. Very sexy.

[Mdguy]

Never a BDSM party but did the Jack n Jill or group masturbation scene several times.... its always HOT