swinger parties

[footage]

Has anyone been to a swinger party. I tried a couple from this group in va. it seems to be a bunch of old hicks or women that dont have the best bodies. But it all depends when you go. Unfortunately im single so that dont accept too many of us. Also I cant get in the mood when trying to have sex. Im not sure what it is. Im fine when I jerk off and Im fine when Im around strippers. I thought being in the wild swinger atmosphere would help but I didnt really see any better results. Trying to get to know my own body. Im 28

[jamiegirl]

I've never actually been to a "swingers party" but my husband and I engaged in the lifestyle for awhile, just meeting other couples privately. I know for me I had to get alot more comfortable with my body, sexuality, etc before I was able to have a good time with it. If you've never really been in a loving relationship its possible that you want maybe more of a connection with the person your trying to have sex with.

A few questions since I may be misunderstanding what your asking here. Have you had sex before? Are you saying that you have attempted sex with a girl but were not able to perform?? If so, then I think that is very understandable. It is probably anxiety to perform and anxiety of rejection if you don't. Things you don't really have to worry about if you are in a loving caring relationship.

[footage]

Yes Im half hand half. The girls that I attempted with I didnt really know that well and I didnt have a connection with. It was just a freaky talk thing or trying to find out basic stuff. But no outings like dates. I have had sex in a way but have not cum/nutted with a girl. I dont know why I cant perform. Im a freak as far as setting the mood and I get a hard on but thats about it. Maintain a hard on after the initial but ass naked sight is about it. Kissing and carraressing works for a while too. I just want to be better but Im thinking its lack of the right type of girl or fun experiences together.I love my views and getting my feel on strippers or trying to peek on but nakedness or when I had the chance. Maybe I need to move out until a neighborhood with daughters stripping or wifes changing or something. I need new atmosphere.Whats going on with me? Why cant I perform?

[happystroker]

I've only not performed once...on the first date with a girl I'd been pursuing for a long time, and that I was kinda awe-struck by. When we finally got into bed, I was nervous and hyper-ventilating. She was great, gave me kisses, rubbed me a little and asked if I wanted to stroke myself, while she hugged and cuddled me. It still took a while, but I became hard, and she mounted me. Being so nervous, I didn't cum for a long time, and she was VERY happy with how long she could enjoy me...

....so I guess I'm suggesting that if you find a kind and understanding girl, who cares for you, then you will both surely find a way to enjoy each other.

NOW, since the topic is actually sex parties, I will say that my first sex was with swinging couples (when I was in high-school), who also took me to more organized sex parties at some swinger's nudist camps. I love them! Not sure I recommend them as a way to break through inhibitions, though, unless your inhibitions are just a thin curtain hiding your libido....

[hot4ashot]

My Hubby and I have been in the lifestyle for YEARS! In my years of experience here are my thoughts:
1. Single guys AREN'T readily accepted in the lifestyle. It's not that you're all bad, it's that the really bad ones have made a bad name for those who aren't. They're not just parties where you can go at anyone you want. You still have to have respect and manners. Also many couples who have invited a single guy to play with them have had it end in disaster. Sometimes the guy ends up trying to get the lady to leave her husband and whisk her away, etc. That's NOT what the lifestyle is about!!!!!! We're doing this to ADD to the excitement of our marriage....not to replace our partners.
2. Unlike Jamie and her hubby, we PREFER meeting people at parties. We've had too many "private" meetings (I'm talking about meeting for the first time) and we didn't click AT ALL and it ended up like a bad blind date. You feel like you're needing to scramble to find a way the hell outta there! If you meet them at a party and there's no connection, well...it's a party...you can get away from them.
3. I'm going to stress again, we're doing this to add to our already amazing marriage as are "most" of the couples there. We're in this together. Yes, we've had single guys play along with us, but we're mainly interested in couples who are like us. Of course every couple has their own preference, but I think that how we go about it is pretty common.
4. If you're not sexually experienced.....I'm sorry to say you probably need to stay away from the lifestyle. Not many are there to help you get over whatever your issue is or to "teach" you.
5. I find that the parties are pretty representative of the general public as far as age/looks/weight. You say you like strip clubs. Well...guess what....you probably like them because while you enjoy looking at a woman who's supposed to look good for a living, she's probably not going to fuck you! In the back of your mind you know that...so no pressure!
6. If you don't like someone's body or age....well...then stay away from them...don't approach them...and know that they might not be too impressed with you either.

Personally I think you just don't understand the lifestyle. Don't worry, most people don't.....but IMO you need to not go to swingers parties until you are comfortable with yourself. We don't go to them to "fix" something, we go to have fun with secure people.

[happystroker]

Very well said, hot4shot!

[Doma]

Well to be honest I don't know much about the swinger (or cuckold) lifestyle either but I find it a big turn-on. I think I understand what the lifestyle is about though and you are absolutely right that you need to have some sexual experience.