Susie,...I think your embarassment about female genital shapes and features is essentially a British thing as quite a lot of us are sexually shy and repressed in so many ways while still having a strong urge or need,...seems to be uniquely Britsh phenomenon not seen much elswhere in the world.
A few years back I was discussing porn videos with a friend when he said, "all the men have such horrible cocks", and I had to agree with him. Theres much in porn which is a direct 'turn off' for me but I put this down to being British! Often I find both male and female genitals either not interesting or downright ugly. Having said that, I do very occasionally see a 'nice' cock in a vid or picture etc, but I have noticed that I have a distinct eye for specimens that are similar to my own!....a thick base and upwards curve with well rounded/shaped glans.
Visual material of the female genitals don't usually interest me,...However, several real live pussies that I have known have been very beautiful and I have enjoyed admiring them a lot!
Something that has always intrigued me is that, since many women have strong preference in what they like a man to look like, ie., some like slim, angular men adn others like stocky build,...do women have a particular 'model' of penis that they like or admire. I am talking about visual apearances, not ..."must be over 10 inches" type of thoughts!
What I mean is; if a woman likes tall thin men, does that mean she likes to see a long thin penis? I have asked several women this but never really got a straight answer......