A big THANKYOU to the forum..

[hardukboy]

my partner has always been very prude when it comes to sex and masturbating etc, she always refers to it (masturbating) as dirty and never masturbates herself. for this reason i have always kept my masturbation to times when she was at work etc...

last week she came home early and caught me, erm, white handed lol... she instantly went mad, saying how she was disgusted with me etc...

anyhow this forum has taught me so much about attitudes toward masturbation, i decided enough was enough, opened a bottle of wine and asked her why she had such a problem. she really opened up more than i have known. we talked for hours about our upbringing, parents attitudes toward masturbation etc. it went really well and we ended up showering together and jerking each other off, followed by the most amazing love making session. she has at last realised how intimate and enjoyable masturbation can be, and im much happier with that.

So thankyou everyone, for giving me the guts to approach our issue in such a relaxed way! i owe you one!

take care

[feetluvr]

Good for you man! Always good to hear success stories! She took to it rather quickly too!

My wife's very similar, for many of the same reasons. Frankly I didn't think she had ever masturbated. Some of our biggest fights have been after she's caught me masturbating. She feels that when I masturbate she's not making me happy. She makes me VERY happy- just not often enough.

We didn't really discuss it much and share our views on it with each other until last summer. I was surprised that she HAD masturbated, but only about 10 times since college. She couldn't believe it when I told her how hot that made me (knowing that she masturbated). She also couldn't believe that I'd love to watch her and even mutually masturbate. She said she'd think about it...nothing's happened yet...

[hardukboy]

well i think the wine helped her along really.. my partner has never masturbated. and we used to have similar arguments to what you mention. all the best!