What are your orgasms about?

[bugleone]

I want to know what you are thinking about as your orgasm hits please.

This has interested me for years and some of my own experiences recently have finally made me ask. I'll try to explain why, and exactly what, I want to know but as orgasm is known to be notoriously difficult to describe or quantify it's probably going to be a bit of a ramble so please bear with me and I'll try to tie some of it down.

Ever since I discovered arousal and orgasm at the age of about 10 or 11 it's always been 'about' something,....a set of thoughts about a situation or person in a situation which is arousing enough to enable me to get excited. As orgasm approaches it is always accompanied by the mental 'video' reaching it's crucial climax. When edging, I mentally reuse the thoughts and pictures in a 'replay' until I decide to finish. As the level of arousal increases with each approach to near orgasm it's the mental situation that allows the increased enjoyment,....so in that sense, I could say that my orgasms are every bit as psychological as due to physical stimulation,..even though that stimulation allows arousal and orgasm to happen.

Unlike many people, I don't ever remember being able to get aroused and reach orgasm using just physical stimulation or by concentrating on just that stimulation,...for me, sex always HAS to have an angle, story, fantasy, 'pin-up' figure or other mental picture/situation.

Perhaps because of this, I have long been fascinated and interested in what the mental part of orgasm actually is,......a climax of emotion,...a surge of some electrical energy,....what actually happens to us during a powerful orgasm and indeed, what makes one orgasm more mentally important than another???

Over the years I have been sometimes amazed and at others troubled by stuff that comes into my minds eye as the process of orgasm finally takes me over. In some mysterious way it seems to be a window to my sub-concious mind allowing, or sometimes inflicting, sequences that are impossible for me to understand or interpret. So, as the final sensation of orgasm explodes in my head, a film like sequence sometimes takes over from the exciting thoughts that I use to get aroused. Often this final rapid sequence is completely non-sexual,......landscapes that I have never been to,..people I have never seen,....machines and vehicles that I can't identify etc. I seem to go through periods of this and then it leaves me.

Sometimes these phenomena take other forms with the final climax of emotion and sensation subverted apparently by my sub-concious mind. I used to use soft porn images of naked women to start my basic arousal and would usally build the mental story line around the person in the pictures,...as I have said, the mental element is all important. however, in recent times I find visual material less and less satisfacory so the 'story line' has become the greater element.

Last week I found my 'story line' built up nicely through several rounds of edging,..it featured a particular female aquaintance as the centre of a set of activies which terminated in my minds eye of my bending her over the kitchen table with her panties around her ankles and her skirt thrown up on her back but as my orgasm expanded I suddenly found that it was entirely taken up with a woman who is a near neighbour and who is currently very ill, being partially paralysed and in a wheelchair. She is an attractive enough lady but I have never found her to be in my fantasies before. She is tall good looking and slim with blond hair but I am naturally drawn to shorter more curvy women with darker hair. My orgasm was agreat surprise to me,..a massive blast of emotional feeling,...a paroxysm of energy which was suddenly ripped out of my mind and 'flowed' to my sick neighbour,...NOT in the least sexy or about sex, just a massive sense of sympathy and love. It was very shocking to me and I can't forget it or stop turning it over in my mind.

Does anyone recognise or understand any of this ramble which i have probably not expressed too well(?)

[Wanker023]

I completely recognize and understand your post bugleone. There are few people that I know in person that could possibly relate to people like us on this site.

I, too cannot get a good orgasm without a fantasy of some kind. It has to be a replaying of the thoughts that got me aroused in the first place. The hardness of my dick and the pleasure derived from rubbing it depends on my fantasy. How long it has been since the last time I cummed also plays a factor in how many fantasies I have to browse through in my mind. Fantacies are a lot more effective if a person you know is in them I've found.

Hearing their voice in person can be a template for the sounds I imagine coming from the fantacy version of them. When I orgasm it's a major climax to the fantacy just as you described bugleone.

[Doma]

I understand what you mean I also have to have some kind of a fantasy, I can't just focus on the physical stimulation; it wont do anything for me.

Oh and Wanker I also found out that if you have gone a long time without ejaculating than little thoughts gather up, accumulate and become one massive fantasy, but if you have jerked off already then you need something especially perverted to get you off.

[Wanker023]

You couldn't be more right Doma. If one has jacked off several times in a day, a great number of erotic fantasies need to be generated to get an orgasm. If there haven't been any orgasms in a long time, little fantasizing is necessary.

[uncut7in]

I normally get my orgasms whilst wearing sexy underwear, fucking and sucking stripped to underwear, reading about underwear, posting on underwear fetish sites, looking at guys in underwear, taking pictures of myself erect in underwear and posting them on the Internet. As you will have guessed, underwear plays a large part in my sex life. I like my partner and myself to strip to our underwear, and keep it on during sex. I like my boyfriend to kneel down and suck my cock through the pouch of my thong, then to lie on the bed and draw up his knees so I can ease the strap of his thong aside and fuck him with my throbbing tool.

When solo, I almost always masturbate to climax whilst wearing skimpy and sexy underwear, and when I get close I take the underwear off and wrap it ropund my cock, jerking off until I fill the pouch with my sticky cum.

[bugleone]

Thank you for all of your replies.......

'uncut7in'.....Yes, I get the picture, but what are you orgasms 'about'....what goes on in your head? ("...until I fill the pouch with my sticky cum.")

[Softly_Gently]

Bugleone -I want to reply to your original post (I only just realized this thread was here- I started a similar one recently.).

At the end of the post you mention of suddenly feeling a sense of love towards someone whom you hadn't previously considered, while masturbating or cumming, is something that has happened to me too.
Like you, I was/am at a loss to explain it.

In my case I had been watching some documentary earlier that evening about a woman who was disabled and was wheelchair-bound.

Despite the fact that I had started out masturbating over some other person and scenario completely, she kept coming back into my mind. As I approached orgasm, I like yourself, had this overwhelming feeling of what I can only describe as LOVE towards this woman. A desire to hold her and make love to her (not simply fuck) . It was particularly intense. I wanted to give her part of ..me. I was overwhlmed with a sense of...giving...I suppose.

I want to emphasize that this is NOT a disability fetish. It hadn't happened before- nor since.

I can only put it down to the fact that I was subconsciously very attracted to this woman, and had she been obviously able-bodied, she would have just been my wank- fantasy for that evening. As it was, something automatically said 'don't go there', but she came through anyway.

I think there is a point here. No matter who you are- no matter how 'unattractive' you think you are, no matter what conditions you have - you are STILL capable of turning someone on somewhere, and making them cum!

One last point that occurs to me on the subject of disability. Most disabled people are just people- they're just sat down- that's all. Maybe simplistic but it's how I like to think of it.

[Softly_Gently]

Just to comment on one aspect earlier in your original post. You mentioned that you're using visual stimulii less these days.

Myself also. I'm actually finding that arousal is greater and subsequent orgasms more powerful with audio and literature stimuation. Weaving a mental story is, as you say, all-important.
I have to say that although this might sound odd, i've recently been using good quality text-to-voice for kicks.
This stuff has advanced to a point where it is almost indistinguishable from the real thing.

I now have my own audio-dominatrix with a wonderful cut-glass accent who will talk as dirty as I like!

Seriously, in the end, I thing (unfortunately?) that the best sex is always in our minds. Even when we are doing it for real.

[biigdiick2]

i usually think about boning a friend of mine