Digging into the Psyche...

[Softly_Gently]

Ok, I want to pose a question here.
Leading on from the 'what do you think about when...' idea, there is something I've noticed. i have read more than once of comments by girls that they masturbate whilst thinking of past events, i.e. old boyfriends, sexual encounters, things that have happened in the past and how they enjoyed them.
By contrast I read of guys expressing fantasies about women that they don't know, or events that they would like to happen at some point in the indeterminate future- not events in the past. I am, as it happens, one of these.

What I want to know is....is this a kind of 'rule'? That girls can get turned on by past events (are they preferable?) whilst guys have to imagine future ones? Is this where the part of porn is played?

This is very simplistic, I know, and probably a sweeping generalization. Maybe this is all bollocks but it would be good to hear comments about it....

[elisabeth]

Ok, I want to pose a question here.
Leading on from the 'what do you think about when...' idea, there is something I've noticed. i have read more than once of comments by girls that they masturbate whilst thinking of past events, i.e. old boyfriends, sexual encounters, things that have happened in the past and how they enjoyed them.
By contrast I read of guys expressing fantasies about women that they don't know, or events that they would like to happen at some point in the indeterminate future- not events in the past. I am, as it happens, one of these.

What I want to know is....is this a kind of 'rule'? That girls can get turned on by past events (are they preferable?) whilst guys have to imagine future ones? Is this where the part of porn is played?

This is very simplistic, I know, and probably a sweeping generalization. Maybe this is all bollocks but it would be good to hear comments about it....

i s'pose i'd rather nurture the reality of an unforgettable memory and plan for a future encounter rather than fantasize about something that has yet to leave a tangible fingerprint.

venus/mars conundrum.

[deeptouch]

I'm with elizabeth on this one. Thinking of past experiances and even voyeristic events always gets me throbing. Now imagination is also a turn on because I can imagine my way right into a scene when reading some of the hot responses in here. That's not planning, thats desire.

I most always consider where the girls mind is and what she might be thinking. One of my favorite things is kissing the girl who has someone elses cock in her. I have often jacked off to fantastic finishes, especialy if the gal helps a little. I have also eaten her pussy with another cock in it.

Any form of masturbation seems good to me, but what makes it the most erotic is consideration of the others thoughts and feelings. Like .... I like the way elisabeth thinks.

[Softly_Gently]

One of my favorite things is kissing the girl who has someone elses cock in her.

Proving that the kiss is mightier than the fuck? Sorry if that sounds crass, but I would hope that in the end that it is so....

[Alan]

When I am masturbating, I am almost always thinking about my past real life sexual experiences with my girlfriend. Even if I am watching porn; the thoughts that are in my head as I am cumming are focused on the sex that I have had with my gal.

[Softly_Gently]

This is interesting stuff. Please keep it coming! It shows how diverse we all are. By contrast to what has been said before, I never masturbate over things that have been- always over imagined things to come....

-SG

[Wanker023]

I get off mainly from fantasizing about future events. Many times the if I use the same fantasy over and over again it wears out and I have to come up with new ones. From reading these posts I can clearly see everyone has a different set of fantasies.