how to convince boyfriend to let me watch?

[Hopeful]

Hello all...

This is my first post and I really only joined to ask this question!

I am a lucky girl to have a lovely new boyfriend. Sweetest guy on earth. He is very shy and sweet, the "nice guy" type. While talking in bed one day he told me that he owns a fleshlight. Of course I jumped all over him because one of my huge fantasies is seeing a guy use one or (better yet) catching him using one But he is much toooooo shy to get it out of hiding and let me watch... though he did tell me that his preferred tactic is putting it between objects and fucking. OMG - he is truly my dream guy material If you were in this situation what would convince you to "go public" as it were? I want to make him feel comfortable, after all he trusted me enough to tell me about this!

Also have you used any similar toys and enjoyed them? Maybe if I get him a gift we can share it It would be better if there was something reusable and a "safe" material (silicone)... but the material is less important... I just don't like the disposable one-use only ones because they seem like such waste for the environment! Also I am personally a little weirded out by the ones that look like realistic, disembodied body parts. But if one of those works really well I'm open to it.

[BlkLngNThk]

wow, you are a sweet girl.
do you know where he keeps it? i guess you have tried the 'upfront' approach and asked?
i think maybe you need to find it and try using it ON him maybe while you play with his ass perhaps? just an idea.
as for other toys, there are different fleshlights available (ie, different inserts) or you could get him a prostate massager.

[jacko444]

Well first of all, when you ask him to let you watch... Don't let it sound like a science experiment or something. In other words don't just ask to let you watch. You will need to kinda break into the subject, and then let him know that it is a fantasy to watch a guy use a fleshlight and how much it would turn you on to watch. If he agrees (you will probably need to state this to get him to agree). don't just sit there like your watching a movie, Be willing put on a show with him. Let him know that it would turn you on so much that you would love to masturbate while watching him play, maybe even pull a toy out yourself.

in other words.. don't just say you want to watch, you have to let him know that you get turned on by the idea, let him know that you have masturbated thinking about a guy getting off with a fleshlight.

[Hopeful]

Thanks for the advice!

BkLngNThk - Yes I know where he keeps it (it's not accessible easily... hidden in a different part of the house, I know which room it's in but don't know where in storage.) I have tried the upfront approach. I think maybe he'll come around, but arrgh

jacko444 - I definitely let him know that it turned me on, and that I'd definitely join in while watching him! (What else would be the point?) He is still shy about it... Though I have already pulled out a couple of my own toys and used them with him.

I think he is shy about it because the past few girls he's dated would have been weirded out/horrified if they knew (the kind of girls who hate porn, thought masturbating was gross, etc.) Poor dude!

[jacko444]

well keep us informed and let us know how it goes. hope you get your way.

[Hopeful]

So far nothing has happened on this particular front. He's bought several new sex toys... FOR ME... as he says it appeals to his tech geek side to see various gadgets (I cannot complain about this man.) He's also masturbated for me with his hands... and used my toys on me... just no boy toys for him yet. I think it will just be a matter of being patient like you all said, though. I really can't think of anything else I could possibly do to make him more comfortable or accepted other than wait

[jacko444]

thanks for the update.. I'm courious about not wanting to use the toy if he has masturbated in front of your already? did he make himself cum? or just stroke himself for a little bit?

[ffolkes]

Hmm... you said he jacked off with you via his hands. Did he jack to a shoot, or just a few strokes? If he's comfortable jacking to cumming, then I wouldn't think it would be too much of a stretch to pull out the toys. Maybe the old girlfriends have seriously embedded some guilt issues into him which if thats the case, you'll just have to be patient.

[kr77]

Wow what a lucky guy. I have a Fleshlight and would love for my girl to watch. While I don't think she would get totally freaked out by it I'm not sure she would love to watch either. Its always been my fantasy for my girl to be really into guys jerking off and ask me to do it for her. I have only jerked off in front of my girl in the context of having intercourse and as a way to finish after marathon sex. I let her know that it turned me on to do it in front of her and wanted her to talk dirty to me tell me to jerk my dick, etc. I think she kind of got into it. But probably not her big thing.
Again lucky guy- keep us posted. Would love to know if you get your fantasy and get to watch him tear that Fleshlight up!